We often change try to change people. This was certainly true for Keith. For many years, he was constantly trying to improve people. This was a classic case of the ego at work. Despite good intentions, trying change people is a recipe for suffering. To be clear, this is different from wanting the best for people. Trying to change them often involves acting to improve them without their consent or partnership. This behavior has adversely affected Keith and Rick personally and in their relationships with others. Listen as they share that the key to changing people is with them. Understanding this, Rick and Keith choose to accept people just as they are, while trying to stay on their own path of being kind, peaceful, and loving.
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It’s human nature to want life to be easy. And if change is required, we want it to be painless. That’s hardly ever the case. Changes takes work and consistent effort. The sooner we accept this, the better our experience is as we do the important work that’s required for a meaningful and peaceful life. Accept that changes takes effort.
Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning. The theme of the book is that no matter how difficult your life, circumstances have only the meaning we give them. We usually cannot control what comes our way but we always have the choice of how to react. Hint: judging something “good” or “bad” gets you nowhere.
Sedona Illuminate Film Festival. Annual 4 day movie festival featuring about 30 full length films from around the world, each with an uplifting, inspiring or life changing message. Most of the filmmakers, actors, producers are on site to discuss their films with the audience. See, www.illuminatefilmfestival.com.
“Morning Miracle.” A film by Nick Conedera (who is currently living in his van) featured at this year’s Illuminate Film Festival. Hal Elrod has an ambitious goal: To “elevate the consciousness of humanity, one morning at a time.” He gets waylaid, however, when doctors diagnose an aggressive form of cancer and give him a 30 percent chance of surviving. Hal turns that 30 into 100 with his “miracle morning” routine, now a best-selling book of life-changing practices. SAVERS= Silence (meditation or prayer); Affirmations; Visualization; Exercise; Reading and Scribing (journaling).
Raise the ceiling on your life by accepting change. After all, change is inevitable. Accepting it can be freeing and give you great internal power. Whereas resisting change almost always results in a loss of power. When I’ve suffered emotionally, it was almost always due to wishing things were different than they were. The longer I stayed in this space, the greater the worry and pain. My life stood still. But the moment I accepted life as it was, I was given a new starting pointing to launch my new beginning from.
Some of the biggest challenges and growth experiences in my life involved change. This occurred in my home as a teenager, relationships, friendships and my business. If you took a snapshot of my life following my parents divorced and relationship breakups in my 30s, you would think I handled change well. That’s because on the the outside, I continued to do well in school and I didn’t talk negatively about the breakups or the other person. But on the inside, I carried resentment. I was trapped in blame and judgment. I would have continued with this pattern of denial if I hadn’t read inspirational books about embracing change and surrounding myself with a few people who lived this way. Regardless of how life showed up, nothing threw them off their game.
The more I read about change and observed people who seemed to handle it incredibly well, I learned the first key to not only handling change, but thriving with it. The first thing you must do is accept it fully. This means giving up wishing things were different than they are. And you use the past only as a teacher for how you, not others, could have done things differently. Next, embrace change. This starts within where you welcome change with an open heart and see it as an opportunity to grow and do something different for a better result. And third, use change as a launch pad to do something new and awesome.
Nowadays i have a powerful mindset when it comes to change. This has served me well in my friendships and business. All I did was accept change, embrace it and run with it. I encourage you to redefine how you see change. When you do, you become unstoppable. Become a Stronger Total Being member today so you can learn to leverage the change in your life.
Stronger Mindset,
Keith