Keith JonesApril 6, 2016

Have you ever met someone who only had kind and loving words to say about other people? I think that’s one of the highest compliments you can pay someone. I wonder how they got that way. Were they born like that or did they work at it? Whichever category they fall in, I am inspired by them.

Like most human beings, I am wired to judge people and situations. My ego can’t help itself. It automatically sees a person’s mistakes as major moral failings, rather than small stumbles that come with being human. And if I’m being self-righteous or feel like someone mistreated me, then I go as far as to say, “what goes around, comes around.” People who are loving don’t act this way. They see another person’s challenge through compassionate and empathetic eyes. I strive to be like this.

In their upcoming book, Phil Stutz and Barry Michels share how to get out of “The Maze” of judgment that ego and negative thoughts trap us in. Follow these steps to become a more powerful, loving and compassionate human being.

Step 1. Concentration. Imagine you are surrounded by a warm liquid light that is infinitely loving. Feel your heart expand far beyond you so that you can become one with this love. When you bring your heart back to normal size, this infinite energy compresses itself into your chest. It’s this unstoppable compressed loving force that just wants to give the love away.

Step 2. Transmission. Focus on the person who has triggered your anger or judgment. Visualize their presence. Send all the love in your chest directly to them, hold absolutely nothing back. It’s like completely expelling a deep breath.

Step 3. Penetration. Follow the love as it leaves your chest and when it enters the other person at their solar plexus, don’t just watch it. Feel it enter them. This will give you the sense that you’re actually completely one with them. It erases the distinction between you and them. Now just relax. Feel yourself once again surrounded by infinite love and it will return to you all the love you gave away.

There’s one difference between people who are loving and forgiving when someone makes a mistake compared to people who judge. The former have set a standard for themselves that love is the most powerful energy they can be and give in every situation. They are not swayed by how other people act. What happened doesn’t matter either. They choose love. If someone in your life has done something you feel is unforgivable, don’t judge or abandon them. Give them love. It’s a gift to you both. Learn how to make love your standard by becoming a Stronger Total Being member today.

Stronger Mindset,

Keith