As human beings, we are always thinking. Some of the thoughts are empowering, others are draining. The thoughts we hold influence our emotions and how we feel. The guys talk about emotions they find to be useless in their efforts to be their best self. They also share what powerful emotions they replace the useless ones with so they live their best life.

Rick’s Reference: The Four Agreements Bestselling author Don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. The Four are: 1) Be Impeccable With your Word; 2) Don’t Take Anything Personally; 3) Don’t Make Assumptions; 4) Always Do your Best. These are based on ancient Toltec wisdom. The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

Keith’s Reference: Brene Brown is an American scholar, author, and public speaker, who is currently a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. Over the last fifteen years she has been involved in research on a range of topics, including vulnerability, courage, shame, and empathy. She is the author of three #1 New Your Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection (2010), Daring Greatly (2012), and Rising Strong (2015). She and her work have been featured on PBS, NPR, TED, and CNN. Many of her presentations are on YouTube.

Rick’s Reference: Zen Parable. It is as if a man had been wounded by an arrow thickly smeared with poison, and his friends and kinsmen were to get a surgeon to heal him, and he were to say, I will not have this arrow pulled out until I know by what man I was wounded, whether he is of the warrior caste, or a brahmin, or of the agricultural, or the lowest caste.  Or if he were to say, ‘I will not have this arrow pulled out until I know of what name of family the man is; – or whether he is tall, or short, or of middle height; or whether he is black, or dark, or yellowish; or whether he comes from such and such a village, or town, or city; or until I know whether the bow with which I was wounded was a chapa or a kodanda, or until I know whether the bow-string was of swallow-wort, or bamboo fiber, or sinew, or hemp, or of milk-sap tree, or it was feathered from a vulture’s wing or a heron’s or a hawk’s, or a peacock’s; or of a ruru-deer, or of a monkey; or until I know whether it was an ordinary arrow, or a razo-arrow, or an iron arrow, or a calf-tooth arrow.’ Before knowing all this, that man would die.